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  • The Art of Fine Cookingware

    A husband by marriage once leaned in close and spoke in an almost whisper but not quite soft enough for everyone not to hear.   “You, buying these biscuits, really helped.”  He tilted his head as if he were saying, “You understand where I am going with this. Don’t you?” I did.  They were fresh, out…

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  • The Art of Revenge

    The Art of Revenge

    I’m not sure if the correct response is we’ve been uninvited or excluded, but a family member is throwing a big deal, at a destination wedding nearby, and my husband and I found out we are not on the guest list through the RSVP function on The Knot. I got a tip and went to see…

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  • The Art of Playing the Game

    For several seasons when I was a young person I worked as a waitress at a private Jewish country club in Hopkins, Minnesota: https://www.oakridgecountryclub.net/About_Us. Two shifts, sometimes three shifts a day.  On my first day the dining manager told me a member wanted to speak to me and he led me to a separate room,…

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  • The Art of Purging

    The Art of Purging

    Kat Vellos, a queer writer, refers to our current social crisis as “post-pandemic platonic longing,” and I can’t recommend this book enough.  After hunkering down for so many years and witnessing so many toxic relationships and emotional car wrecks daily via television and social media, this kind of reaction would make perfect sense. (I’m trying…

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  • The Art of Platonic

    The Art of Platonic

    Not counting our dearest and oldest friends, and our newbie dearest friends, my husband and I have a much wider circle of new relationships in our life these days.  Important and necessary professional acquaintances; new and blossoming professional relationships with potential to become friendship relationships; Zoom groupers and leaders of Zoom groups (in all the…

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  • The Art of The Salad

    The Art of The Salad

    I used to teach a theme-based composition course on the farmers’ market and the homemade food Renaissance.  Half of the required booklist is on the food manufacturing crisis; the other half poems and fiction on subjects like vegetables, flowers, nature, Adam and Eve. We watched documentaries on farming. Daily my students heard me rant on…

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  • Studs Terkel: The Art of Listening

    My husband and I have been preparing children’s clothing, toys, and furniture donations for local charities. Being on the phone with people who do this kind of work reminded me of how important it is to listen.  In his groundbreaking book “Working,” Studs Terkel taught the world a lesson on empathy:   Only when we ask…

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  • Publication Announcement

    I am honored and thrilled that my poem “Pollen: North Carolina” has been accepted for publication and will be included in the 2023 eEdition of http://PoeticaMagazine.com A heartfelt thanks and appreciation to Michal (Mitak) Mahgerefteh and poetry editors at Poetica Magazine. https://www.bennington.edu/mfa-writing/publication-news ☮️ #writingcommunity #poetrycommunity

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  • Topsy-Turvy: The Art of Performing

    We live in the South, and it didn’t take long before we noticed how some performed Southern and class as a way to survive. Friends from out-of-state tell me it’s not just in the South anymore. I’m not talking about people from here who see me at political gatherings and cross the room to corner…

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  • The Art of Paying Attention

    Here is the first story I told myself about a purchase I made one day: I must not have been paying attention when my personal shopper called me to inform me the grocery store was out of my preferred brand of white sugar. Could she give me a different brand that is in stock? The…

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